[원서 읽기] The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k 신경끄기 기술 단어 정리 / 책 구절 / 리뷰

  Chapter 1  

Charles Bukowski was an alcoholic, a womanizer, a chronic gambler, a lout, a cheapskate, a deadbeat, and on his worst days, a poet.
chronic 만성적인 
lout 막돼 먹은 놈
cheapskate 구두쇠
deadbeat 게으름뱅이, 낙오자

His work was horrible, they said. Crude. Disgusting, Depraved.
depraved 타락한

He got paid shit money and spent most of it on booze.
on booze 술을 들이키다, 만취하다 drinking a lot of alchohol

He was fifty, after a lifetime of failure and self-loathing.
self-loathing 자기혐오

His popularity defied everyone's expectations, particulary his own.
defy 반항하다, 저항하다, 거역하다

His life embodies the American Dream.
embody 구현하다, 상징하다 (유의어. represent) / a politician who embodied the hopes of black youth / 흑인 청년들의 희망을 상징하는 정치인

It is then strange that on Bukowski's tombstone, the epitaph reads: "Don't try."
epitaph /ˈep.ɪ.tɑːf/ 묘비명

His success stemmed not from some determination to be a winner...
stem from = ~ to be caused by ~로 부터 유래하다, 기인하다 (stem : 줄기)

It was his simple ability to be completely, unflinchingly honest with himself-especially the worst parts of himself-and to share his failings without hesitation or doubt.
unflinchingly (힘들거나 위험한 상황에서도) 위축되지 않는 =  steadfast 변함없는    

When you stop and really think about it, conventional life advice-all the positive and happy self-help stuff we hear all the time-is actually fixating on what you lack. It lasers in on what you perceive your personal shortcomings and failures to already be, and then emphasizes them for you.
conventional 일반적인, 전통적인, 관례적인
fixate on ~ : ~에 (병적으로) 집착하게 하다
laser : n 레이저, 레이저 발사하다 (강조하다) 
perceive 감지하다, ~로 여기다

You try goofy visualization excercises about being more successful becuase you feel as though you aren't successful enough already.
goofy 멍청한, 바보같은

Everyone and their TV commercial wants you to believe that the key to a good life is a nicer job, or a more rugged car, or a prettier girlfriend, or a hot tub with an inflatable pool for kids. 
rugged 매력적으로 강하게 생긴 
rugged car

You are constantly bombarded with messages to give a fuck about everything. ... Give a fuck about buying that new lawn ornament. 
bombard with ~ : (폭격, 공격 / 질문, 비난을) 퍼붓다
ornament 장신구

It causes you to become overly attached to the superficial and fake, to dedicate your life to chasing a mirage of happiness and satisfaction. 

mirage [ məˈrɑːʒ ] 신기루

The Feedback Loop from Hell 
loop 원형도로, 고리

There's an insidious quirk to your brain that, if you let it, can drive you absolutely batty. 
insidious 교활한, 함정에 빠트리는, 서서히 퍼지는
quirk 기벽, 괴벽
batty 미친

That anxiety cripples you and you start wondering why you're so anxious.
cripple 무력하게하다, 심각한 손상을 주다

Very few animals on earth have the ability to think cogent thoughts to begin with, but we humans have the luxury of being able to have thoughts about our thoughts.
cogent 설득력있는, 납득할만한

Our society today, through the wonders of consumer culture, has bred a whole generation of people who believe that having these negative experiences is totally not okay.
bred 낳다, 번식하다, 기르다 (bread-bred-bred)

By not giving a fuck that you feel bad, you short-circuit the Feedback Loop from Hell.
short-circuit 단전

I'll give you a minute to unpretzel your brain and maybe read that again.
unpretzel 풀다 untie

It's like this one time I tripped on acid and it felt like the more I walked toward a house, the farther away the house got from me. I just used my LSD hallucinations to make a philosophical point about happiness.
acid 산성 (속어 LSD) on acid 약, 술에 취해서
hallucination 환각

Suffering through your fears and anxieties is what allows you to build courage and perseverance.
perserance  [ |pɜːrsə|vɪrəns ] 인내

Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience.
worthwhile 가치있는
surmount ~위에 얹히다, 극복하다

Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires.
quash 잠재우다, 진압하다, 파기하다...
backfire 역효과를 낳다

Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it.
inextricable 해결할 수 없는 (extricate 해방시키다, 자유롭게하다)
unravel (실이) 풀리다, 흐트러지기 시작하다

What I'm talking about here is essentially learning how to focus and prioritize your thoughts effectively-how to pick and choose what matters to you and what does not matter to you based on finely honed personal values.
hone (기술을) 연마하다

You will feel that you're perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times.
perpetually 영구적으로, 끊임없이
entitled to ~할 권리가 있다, 자격이 있다

You will see every adversity as an injustice, ... every inconvenience as a personal slight...
adversity 역경, 고난
slight 모욕, 무시

entitlement and bluster 특권의식과 허세

When most people envision giving no fucks whatsoever, they imagine a kind of serene indifference to everything, a calm that weathers all storms. They imagine and aspire to be a person who is shaken by nothing and caves in to no one.
envision 상상하다
serene [ səˈriːn ] 조용한, 고요한
aspire to ~를 열망하다, 염원하다
cave in ~에 굴복하다

Why you would want to emulate a psychopath..
emulate 모방하다

subtlety 미묘한, 중요한 세부 요소

 

Subtlety #1 : Not giving a fuck means being confortable with being differnt. 

 

sarcasm and self-righteous snark
비꼼과 독선적인 비판

Indiffernt people are afraid of the world and the repercussions of their own choices.
repercussion 악영향

I was indignat. I was pissed off. 화가 났다

Subtlety #2 : To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity. 

 

Her pension is on its last legs, and she's probably going to die in a diaper thinking she's in Candy Land. So she snips coupons.
~is on its last legs : ~가 다 죽어가다, 수명이 다해가다
snip 자르다

If you find yourself consistently giving too many fucks about trivial ship that bothers you, chances are you don't have much going on in your life to give a legitimate fuck about.
legitimate [ lɪˈdʒɪtɪmət ] 적당한, 타당한, 합법적인...

I think what most people - especially educated, pampered middle-class white people - consider "life problems" are really just side effects of not having anything more important to worry about.
pamper 애지중지하다, 소중히 보살피다 (때로 못마땅함), 응석받아주다
pampered 제멋대로 하는

If you don't find that meaningful something, your fucks will be given to meaningless and frivolous causes.
frivolous  [ ˈfrɪvələs ] 경솔한, 시시한                                                                                                                                                                                                             

 

Subtlety #3 : Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.

 

We realize how little attention people pay to the superficial details about us, and we choose not to obsess so much over them.
superficial 깊이 없는, 얄팍한, 피상적인

And, in a strange way, this is liberating. ... We accept it, warts and all.
liberate 해방시키다
wart 피부에 생기는 사마귀, 결점..

 

 

 

 

2500여년 전 한 나라의 왕은 자신의 귀한 아들에게 어떠한 삶의 고통을 모른 채로 키우고 싶어서 성곽을 높게 세우고 성 안에서는 가난, 죽음, 고통 등이 없은 생활만을 하게 했다. 하지만 그 왕자는 뭐든게 부족한 것이 없는 환경이 만족스럽지 않았고 몰래 성 밖을 가보니 자신이 평생 모르고 살던 가난, 죽음, 고통을 보고 엄청난 충격에 빠진다.

이에 왕자는 자신이 가진 모든 기득권을 버리고 ‘고통’만을 추구하는 삶을 몇 년 지내보니 고통만 있는 삶 또한 만족스럽지 않고 고통스럽기만 했다.

그 왕자는 부처님이시고 부처님이 몇 년간의 고통스런 삶을 영위하시며 얻은 깨달음은… (이미 우리가 잘 알듯) 고통은 최악이고 의미도 없다는 것이다.

As with being rich, there is no value in suffering when it’s done without purpose.
목적이 없는 고통은 목적이 없는 풍족함과 같이 가치가 없다.

Happiness is not solvable equation.
행복은 풀수 있는 방정식이 아니다.

We suffer for the simple reason that suffering is biologically useful.  (…).
We are wired to become dissatisfied with whatever we have and satisfied by what we do not have. This constant dissatisfaction has kept our species fighting and surviving, building, and conquering.